Men love to conquer, so don’t ever forget that, girls: even if he’ll never admit it to you, a man is never happier than when he’s chasing after you. The interesting thing about messages is that you can suggest a lot in very few words, add to that the impossibility of seeing you immediately and BOUM, he wants you and is now waiting for just one thing. I don’t have to spell it out for you…
Deny him something
“I can’t send you a picture of me in a bikini, you’ll go crazy.”
Don’t hesitate to send it, even if you think he may have known prettier women, because that’s not the point.
When you want to be desired, you gain more by hiding than by showing. It’s common practice these days, especially in Internet dating, to quickly show short-clothed photos, partly to stand out from the crowd on a profile, but mainly to avoid any disappointment by telling yourself “at least he knows my faults”. This is a bad strategy, because men need to fantasize about you, and while they certainly want to see, it breaks the sexual tension. The better you know how to refuse, the better you can make him wait.
Urgent love
“I want you. Now.”
It’s the uncontrollable urgency that comes out of this kind of message that’s exciting for a man. It’s not so much a question of him coming to your workplace to make love to you (although he might), but of him feeling that urgency and imagining himself doing it. This will probably sound very direct to some of you reading this, but you should know that it’s unsettling for a man to feel that a woman is totally confident with his sexuality.
Guess
“Guess what I’m wearing right now?
It’s a simple idea: let his imagination run wild around your body. It doesn’t matter what it is – the right answer might be “nothing at all” – the effect will be the same. Be prepared to send him a photo that will leave him a little on edge when it comes to replying. No need to bring out the big lingerie, it could be a simple little dress you’ve been wanting to try on (PS: I’m not wearing anything underneath).
Jealousy
“Oops, I went off in a rush and completely forgot to put on a bra.”
As if we could forget such a thing ? but never mind, it’s jealousy we’re talking about here. Why? Because he knows full well that other men will be able to guess the contours of your breasts. Far from chilling him, this idea of being falsely in competition will excite him. And don’t be afraid to annoy him a little in the process, because it’s a strange thing that the more you arouse other men’s desire, the more his desire increases.
Get him talking
“If I were at your mercy right now, what would you do to me?”
You could call this “the boomerang” as the excitement will come back to you with the things he’ll invent for you. You can then respond with a simple “Please stop, I’m getting hot”. Don’t hesitate to add a little more, because men love to feel the excitement overwhelm the woman they love or covet.
I’ve been coaching men and women on their relationships for nearly 10 years now and I’m always amazed during my sessions, looking at the conversations on my clients’ phones, at the absence of messages that have real seductive power. A good message starts with a good self-image. For example, a person who is emotionally dependent and needs reassurance will tend to send messages simply to have contact and know that the other person is still receptive.
