Flirting by SMS is a real art!If you only knew how many emails I get a week from men asking for my seduction coach advice since 2016:
Tessa Tease , don’t you have some talking points on how to flirt via SMS?
Apparently, there’s a real block. And the conversation is quickly reduced to NIL.
- Can’t make a girl laugh?
- No topic of conversation to seduce a woman?
- Big blanks?
Conversation becomes even BORING? I can see EXACTLY what the problem is. I’m going to give you five conversation topics to help you with your next text exchange. You’ll learn how to :
- Seduce a girl by SMS,
- Know how to land your first date,
- Flirt with a woman,
- Charm her,
- Gain more self-confidence, etc.
1- First technique for flirting by SMS: the “What if?
Do you want to know what to talk about when you want to pick up a woman by text message? The “what if” technique is super simple!Basically, you start a sentence with “what if”. Here’s a concrete example:
And if you could visit any country in the world, which would it be?
BAM. A wide-open question that lets your imagination run wild. It’s the ideal subject to approach a girl (and please her even more). Especially if she likes to travel! She’ll jump right into the conversation, and there’s a good chance she’ll return the favor by asking you the same question. It’s a great way to seduce. She’ll want to know if you like the same style of destination, for example. Which would already give you something in common. See what I mean?
2 – SMS flirting: my second “quality/defect” technique.
Another easy-to-implement technique. The principle is simple. It consists of two steps:
Step 1: ask the girl to name her BEST quality, and her WORST flaw,
Step 2: continue the conversation.
For example, you could send her a message along the lines of:
What’s the WORST thing that could make me run away?
She might reply:
- I’m jealous,
- I hold a grudge,
- I’m a pain in the ass.
Then it’s up to you. You can even add a touch of humor! Because making a woman laugh is also part of the game of seduction. And it can make you even more attractive to her.
3- The CONCERT technique
I know it doesn’t sound like much! But it’s a pretty cool way to start a conversation via SMS. The “music” subject is a pretty cool way to pick up a girl. It’s sweet. However, you still have to be careful how you approach her. If you say, “What’s your style of music?” Personally, I find that a bit of a “leading” question. I’d rather ask:
If you had to give just one concert before the end of the world, what would it be, and with whom?
The cool thing about this text conversation topic is that it’s going to help you put her in a situation where she’ll be able to project herself with you. It’s perfect for attracting girls. And it’s a non-aggressive flirting technique (perfect, by the way, for the shy!). Then, if she tells you about an artist you don’t like at all, it’s an opportunity to have a laugh with her. Tease her a little (gently of course, we’re not going to be the big bully). Teasing in the seduction phase is important too! Women rarely like a man who ALWAYS agrees with her. So take the opportunity to get straight to the heart of the matter.She needs to project herself into the future with you. For example, you could say:
Okay, I hate the guy, but I’m willing to go to his concert with you.
An excellent springboard for inviting a girl. Warning, I repeat (but it’s in your best interest): This technique DOES NOT WORK if you don’t know how to follow it!
4 – The “worst date” technique
Here’s a super-simple new principle to apply. You have to get her to talk about her WORST date.
What’s the point? To make you look good. For example, you’re going to text her and ask:
Tell me about the WORST date you’ve ever had!
And then it’s going to be really funny. She’ll tell you about all the heavyweights she’s dated. Not necessarily about texting, but in general! Like:
- A super badly dressed guy,
- A guy who stinks,
- The guy who talks super bad,
- The guy who hits on the girl and wants to take her straight home when they haven’t even talked,
- The guy who has no tact, etc.
- She’ll really tell you about her experiences, which today are comical, but which she doesn’t want to relive!
You’ll find it easier to seduce her. That’s how you can make the most of her worst dates! This is what I call the “contrast effect”. You can add value to yourself by showing her that you’re the opposite of everything she’s ever known. You might not even need to give her a whole bunch of arguments to seduce her (compliments galore, etc.). She’ll realize on her own that you’re interesting and attractive. All this will make her interested in you, and lead to a date.
5- Flirt by SMS with the “dream of a lifetime” technique.
This technique is based on a simple principle: make her dream! It may sound silly, but women love emotions. (Read this article to better understand women). So, in your conversations, simply ask her the question:
What is your greatest dream in life?
or
What if you had to make just one of your dreams come true?
Whatever her answer, this is the moment when you take charge. You’re going to make her dream. This technique is extremely important, as it allows you to play on her imagination. When we say “imagination”, we mean “psychology” and also “emotions”. The positive emotions you trigger in her will make her want to see you again. Now’s the perfect time to ask her out! Flirting by sms is also about giving her emotions. And women are very sensitive to anything emotional.
It’s up to you!
These SMS flirting techniques will help you start a conversation with a woman. But above all, they’ll help you avoid the big blanks, and the EMPTY moments, when you want to send a message. If you can’t get going when she answers your questions, I’m here to help you improve your repartee. The aim is to pick up a woman and land a date with her!
Any other tips?
